Sunday, November 29, 2009 News: Story: Family turned upside down News: Story: Family turned upside down

This article is about one of Carter's really good buddies who has been in his class since JK. It is the "shortened" version of what was printed in the paper. Breaks my heart....

As I read through Adam's article today it reminded me what Shelley (Adam's Mom) has to deal with on a daily basis and how they as a family make it all work. She has good reason to get frustrated and yet I've never seen it in her. She always seems so patient, so optimistic and so together. The doctors say "Adam has an 85% chance of beating this cancer completely and a 100% chance of showing the people around him that life is a joy" This most definitely, is a reflection of how positive and wonderful his family is...

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

I feel this way and Chris feels this way.... but not always about what each other cooks!

“Cooking itself is sexy and smart. In the right hands, it can inspire and express as much emotion and love as music, dance or poetry. It can give you joy, hope and laughter and it can energize your soul and spirit.”
Jewels and Jill Elmore

Saturday, November 21, 2009

I Can Be Read Like An Open Book...

I've often been told I can be read like an open book because of my facial expressions. I also wear my heart on my sleeve so if I like you, you'll know it.
Today I had a "Face Reading" done which was pretty interesting. Here's what I learned my face says....

I make people feel comfortable because I can adapt to their needs.... I mirrored the guys body language when he suggested we get started.
When I squint when I'm listening it's because I am taking it all in, but processing the information in my own way and deciding how I feel about it. When my eyes are wide open or my eyebrows are raised it's because the information doesn't really need to be processed... it's more of entertainment information and I take it as it is.
The slope of my nose means I'm very direct with how I shoot out information to people. I tell it like it is but once I reflect on what I've said, I worry about how they've interpreted it and have to go back and explain what I really meant to say..... THIS IS SOOOO ME!
My jawline says I'm a person who can be told to do a task and I get the job done. I can be counted on. (awwww! Love that!)
I'm a thinker. The lines in my forehead mean I have multiple conversations going on in my head at the same time. I can block them out if I'm in a deep conversation with someone which brings some relief to me... which is probably why I LOVE going for lunch/coffee/dinner/beers with friends because it gives me a break away from the chaos of thoughts going through my head.
My lip line tells him I should always follow my gut instinct. I am a person that can be persuaded to do something even though my gut tells me not to.... he says I need to follow my gut. OKAY.
The first and last thing he talked to me about is that I am "a radiant being of empathy." HOW COOL IS THAT?? He said it's written all over my face.

I'm not so sure how I feel when people tell me they can read me like an open book or that I wear my heart on my sleeve, but if what they are reading is that I'm a Radiant Being of Empathy, then thats all good! lol ; )

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Kisses & Love

Carter has started to comment about certain boys at school having "girlfriends" and how so and so "kissed each other" It's really quite comical how they interpret affection at such a young age, aside from what they know as being normal amongst family members. Even in high school, a sign of affection meant something BIG; it was a possibility. If a guy were to kiss you, like on the cheek kiss you, it could mean this is leading somewhere. If the word LOVE ever came up, you might as well consider yourself married and if it came from a girlfriend then you just might be a lesbian.... but it was up to your friends to come to a conclusion. Basically, you just avoid all signs of affection unless you were really into someone. It's confusing. I can see why Carter is all talk about this.

It's funny how that all changes as you age and as you mature. My girlfriends and their husbands would never leave my house without giving me good bye kisses. If I drop them off at home after being out... thank you kisses. If we run into each other unexpectedly..... happy to see you kisses. If we show up at each others places unannounced.... welcome kisses. When we meet at a restaurant for dinner.... glad you could make it kisses. If something sad happens.... so sorry kisses. There is no thinking twice about it. It's an expectation.

And the word Love is used more openly as an adult, I think because it goes hand in hand with the word Respect. My friends and I say I love you a lot. And we mean it. It's so great when you get to this point in your life where our nervousness, ego and guard can be let down and you can show people how you really feel about them without any awkwardness. Trying to explain this to someone as young as Carter just wouldn't make sense. Trying to explain it to anyone who isn't in a committed relationship probably couldn't make sense of it either, now that I think about it. You almost have to go through all the motions and emotions before you really get it. You have to feel grounded, solid and secure of yourself and your relationships. I believe it comes with age. Guess I'll have to wait til he is 30-something and giving congratulations kisses, good by kisses etc etc to his friends spouses before he will truly understand how it all works. For now, it seems he is too busy with playground weddings for this kind of talk so it'll have to wait.

You May Say I'm A Dreamer....

Every year as we approach the Holiday Season, the words to John Lennon's Imagine start filling my head more often than any other time of the year. It's my all-time favourite song but I think about it more around this time with feelings of anxiety.
I'm gearing up to go on my annual Girls Shopping in the USA Weekend next week, which I love and look forward to. While we make time for fun, we go there on a mission to get as much Christmas shopping done as possible. As I make my list of what I need to get and who I need to buy for, I always struggle with ideas... because none of these people really need anything. When I hear the words in my favourite song, I think about what all this money could go towards and how many people could really benefit from it. There are people in this world without clean drinking water, and I'm struggling to remember which Transformers my kids said they needed in order to have the entire set!?! My boys are living a very materialistic childhood, very similar to the one in which I grew up and I feel very off balance by it all. We are a family who goes to the fire station every year with new toys for the Toy drive, we donate to charities & food banks and we contribute to our community through organizations our children are involved in.... but those things are not what will bring balance to this whole Christmas madness for me. I'm not religious so it's not about the over commercialization of Christmas and loss of meaning that bothers me so much.... it's about having far more than we really need in life in general. We should be sharing the wealth with the countries that don't know how to grow their own food, need medications and educations and who would truly benefit from the money we blow on unnecessary things each and every day of the year... not just at Christmas. I guess it bothers me more at this time of year because of how much extra we shell out on such material things. I've got some thinking to do.... because something is going to have to change in how we do Christmas in the years to come. I want to be able to say Happy Holidays and really mean it. And really feel it. Imagine?


Imagine there's no Heaven
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today

Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace

You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one

Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world

You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one

John Lennon

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Let your vision be from your heart and then listen from your soul (via @healwithangels)
What soap is to the body, laughter is to the soul. ~Yiddish Proverb

Deep Thoughts by Jack Handy

Dad always thought laughter was the best medicine, which I guess is why several of us died of tuberculosis. ~Jack Handey, "Deep Thoughts,"Saturday Night Live

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

There's More To Life Than Being A Passenger (Amelia)

I remember being in the grade school choir singing "Sky Happy" in a play we did about Amelia Earhart. I used to run the scenes through my head long after we finished the play because I loved the story so much. She was a woman who really understood herself and her dreams in a time when that wasn't well accepted by society. She was full of confidence and inner strengths. I think every woman can take something positive for themselves out of her inspiring story. I've just learned there is a movie out about her life.... I don't make a habit of telling people they should do anything, but everyone should go see this!

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Life-long Vegetarian and proud to be Canadian. Really, I'm a little bit of everything, all rolled into one. I'm a bitch, I'm a lover, I'm a child, I'm a mother, I'm a sinner, I'm a saint (I do not feel ashamed) I'm your hell, I'm your dream (I'm nothing in between) You know, I wouldn't want it any other way..... (I'd like to think that song was written about me! lol)